Feeling Stuck
By Courtney Sutton
Sometimes I feel stuck in my own growth.
If the world around me is an indicator, I would think everyone is deep into their journey of self awareness, self care and mental health. Yet, I often find myself in social settings feeling like perhaps my understanding of growth, self care, and wellness is misaligned with the world.
When I talk to my peers, I feel like I’m speaking a different language. I hear people talk about self care as asking for help, or confronting people about problematic behavior/opinions, maintaining beauty regimes or quitting a job for entrepreneurship. And maybe that is the work.
The more I work on myself, the less the journey seems to be about acquiring things, or generating revenue, identifying other people’s faults or even portraying an image of having it all together. The more I grow comfortable in my own skin the more I am learning that being uncomfortable and unsure is par for the course. The more I know about me; the less I realize I know.
Which brings me back to trying to find my space in the world. I am in a moment in life where I am in search of community. I am looking for my peers who share similar interests and don’t mind having deep authentic conversations because being vulnerable is how relationships grow. What I am finding in all of my attempts, are people who are good at saying the buzzwords; but when you listen closely that’s really all they’re saying. Repeated talking points from social media without much thought or even original perspective doesn’t make for much conversation, or even really getting to know someone.
So how do we learn to get to know ourselves and be authentic in space if the world around us seems unavailable and unwilling to truly engage and participate? When I am working with clients who are feeling stuck, I often ask them to spend some time in stillness. Square Breathing is a tool you can use to create space and stillness.
If this is something you would like to work on, schedule a free 30-minute Strategy Session to create a plan to get unstuck.